I am writing today from a camp chair at a folding table in my New Mexico kitchen. My life has become nomadic and deliciously lighter in many ways. However, this new material lightness doesn’t always lend itself to the cozy writing spots I was once used to, nor the lovely gaps of alone time where I could gather my thoughts The homeschooling child sleeps and so I have cultivated this sweet, quiet space for you and I…
Know it is warm in my kitchen today despite the snow falling outside and I have poured us a cup of tea. As you imagine sitting here with me today may the tenderness surrounding us touch you. I woke up early because I want to open up into the honesty of the timing of my choice to begin pelvic floor physical work. This was not an easy choice for my body. In simply making the appointment to work with my own pelvic floor with a physical therapist so much energy in the form of memory began to move in my body. And in that movement of memory/grief/fear it became quickly clear to me why I have chosen to wait for this exact moment to enter this form of healing work. This choice has been years in the making and preparations, nearly a decade to be exact.
The timing of entering pelvic floor work matters. Adding another human being to the mix on this journey is a HUGE step especially for survivors. As much as I would have loved for my healing to move much faster, deep, lasting healing cannot be rushed. The body unfolds from trauma in its own time and as a human with this one life to live, healing time can feel extremely slow and the subtle changes invisible to my hurried eye. I trust though, my body knows exactly what she is doing and over the past decade, I can see the shifts and sense her healing from the inside out.
When one is contemplating pelvic floor work there are some important considerations. May this short list help you decide on your timing or help you in the creation of your own readiness tool. Each body is so unique. Know that your readiness may require different pillars of support. It is in the recognizing of what I need, the magic happens. Dr. Julie Von has a wonderful exercise she utilizes in helping folks find what they need as their foundation of wellness. As women living within patriarchy sometimes the hardest question we can ask ourselves is, “What do I need?” These pillars once identified consciously are more able to help hold and support us as we facilitate our own healing. I am applying the what are my pillars tool here in discovering what I need to move forward with this next step in my healing journey.
- space, time and financial resources
- trusted/vetted facilitator be that a Pelvic floor PT, osteopath, Cranial Sacral/Myofascial, Priestess, sex therapist etc.
- community/professional/partner support
- nervous system readiness
As an osteopathic physician that works with women at this stage of pelvic floor healing, I am now even more aware of the healing value of readiness that this journey requires. I am so lucky today to be able to see the sacred timing. Wherever you are on your healing journey, know I believe in you and your body. This work matters. And, the timing is all yours.
Recommended movement music to for this writing:
You Can’t Rush Healing by Trevor Hall