“My kid never gets sick.” This is the most common sentence I hear from prospective families when they reach out the first time. I always smile when I hear it and here’s why. This sentence is partially true. The kids I care for in my private practice are well-nourished in body, mind and spirit. Most have intact immune systems and very few battle chronic diseases. The parents I serve are vigilant and catch illnesses early. In addition to this, many utilize holistic methods that prevent illnesses from going deeper and causing complications and secondary infections. The truth in this statement is my kid doesn’t seem to get terribly sick and they usually get better without issues on their own. The reality is unless your kids are completely cloistered they are going to pick things up due to viral shift and drift (more to come on these as we head into this coming flu season). That runny nose that looks like mild allergies is your healthy kids’ innate immune system effectively flushing out something that could land a more vulnerable child in an ICU. Just because your kid isn’t flat out in bed doesn’t mean they are not “sick.” This becomes very important in preventing the spread of communicable diseases. But, there is more at stake in starting conversations with this sentence.
This sentence contains evidence of a subtext and it is this deeper level that often proves most relevant. I want to relieve my holistic community from a specific burden. One of the reasons we start conversations with “my kids never get sick” is we hold a belief that others think we’re crazy and that we need to prove ourselves and our decisions through our kids’ brilliant health. This belief is self-limiting. Honor where it came from. Most likely our need to defend or prove came as the result of cruelty and attack. When we choose to let this hurt go we can breathe more freely in our power, we can stand in true confidence not on the defensive of our choices. There is nothing to prove when one is acting from the seat of intuition. With regards to this sentence, the next place to do some psychological dusting is around the idea that we have control over everything. This related and common thread manifests in the holistic community within the concept that everything happens for a reason. And this belief is great as long as you’re not holding yourself at the center of the reason that good or bad happens. Sh*t happens sometimes. It’s not your fault and whatever you’re blaming yourself for happened and is most likely beyond your immediate control. Again, feel free to let this one go into the bigger mystery that contains us. Breathe deeply into the gentler truth, which is most of this, we are merely here to witness. Our conscious breath; our coming home to truly embody this life, this is where our true power lays. Our job is to simply explore what keeps us from coming home. That’s it. Trust me, the rest is a crap shoot! And yep, included in this is the fact that even healthy kids sometimes get sick.
Much love and tenderness as you explore around these spaces. So many of us have been badly hurt by ignorance. You are not alone. You are living your truth and I love you for it.